Take It to the Healer

10 Feb

Take It to the HealerWe drove to the Deep South for post-Christmas fun with my husband’s sisters, their families, and his Dad. As I looked out over the Alabama fields, I told God:

“My heart hurts. What healing do You have for me here?”

I believe He always wants to heal our wounds. It’s part of what He went to the cross for.

You know what? I found His hugs, warmth, and love in watching young cousins have light-saber battles and in playing rowdy games of “Nuts” with my nephew and nieces. I watched each God-given personality interact and shine. I saw their faces as once-babies now in mostly/almost adult form.

And I thought of this verse:

Psalm 27:13, KJV, King David speaking

I had fainted, unless I had believed to see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living.

We must see God’s goodness in everything He gives us because death, disease, addictions, injuries, and sin are thieves we can become embittered hating if we don’t focus on the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. At times, it’s a minute-by-minute choice, or else we’d lose our minds and hearts to deep grief, shame, or disillusionment.

Sometimes, seeing His goodness is so hard for us because of our incredible pain. He knows this, so we can ask Him to help us. We absolutely should.

John 15:7, ESV, Jesus speaking

If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you.

Our family of five, along with two rather compliant Shih Tzus, began our road trip back from Alabama and traveled as far as Knoxville, Tennessee, when the text came in that my 26 year old cousin had lost her long battle with addiction. We more or less stopped in our tracks. Our return to Boston was now taking a detour to a scene of deep pain and loss.

December kicked all wind out of me. It started with my father’s passing and now this: A young life slipped away senselessly to the seemingly impossible and costly lure of a devil that chased her in her every waking moment as well as in her sleep.

“Lord, no offense, but what happened to the healing part of this trip? Weren’t You and I working on a slow repair plan?”

Yeah, see, that’s exactly what was wrong with my thinking right there:

You and I.

I had told Him I yielded to His healing work. I can’t demand what that looks like. It sure didn’t look like another loss to me.

Where is the goodness, Lord? I am faint with heartache for her family!

Where and when on earth will our wounds be healed?

How about you? When will yours? The ones you cart around in that little side pocket of your heart that sometimes swells and bulges with what you try to stuff away in there?

That lost relationship?

That shattered dream?

That loved one now passed away?

That worry that eats away at your heart every moment?

Did you think you cleverly “compartmentalized it”? Yeah, no offense, but:

Good luck with that!

You may not think so, but we can all see your bursting hurts.

And you can see mine.

I don’t know how to comfort my family in our shared sadness other than to say that as faint as we are, there is still goodness in the land of the living in the:

  • Joy of children
  • Marriages God has given
  • Restored health of other loved ones
  • Second chances in life that are not only offered but taken
  • Relationships challenged by but growing closer in the mourning

No matter how we find the broken pieces of ourselves, we have ready access to the Healer. He wants to bind our wounds. He came to heal bodies and hearts. It is already accomplished. We need to just believe in His tender heart toward us and trust Him with the aching places.

I don’t know how much or how heavy what you carry is. I am not even sure how long it has been since you brought it out to look at it, pet it, puzzle over it, and stress about it.

But I do know that the Healer loves you deeply. He is waiting for you to drag your bruised and battered heart to His unconditional, powerful love and find rest there. He may choose a process to restore you. He often does. But if you truly give Him what hurts the most, you can trust Him to help you carry it and to work it to good purposes.

Yes, even loss.

That’s perhaps the hardest piece to believe, to give Him. I get it. I really do. At the time of this writing, Dad hasn’t been gone a month yet. My wounds are still open, weeping, and fresh.

Even so, I know from seeing the faith walk of several friends and family, that He will take that loss and turn it to something beautiful if you ask Him—even if you struggle to have that much hope. Ask Him to help you in your unbelief. He’s not afraid of it. He wants your bare-naked honesty.

Isaiah 53:5, ESV, Isaiah the Prophet speaking

But he was pierced for our transgressions;
he was crushed for our iniquities;
upon him was the chastisement that brought us peace,
and with his wounds we are healed. 

Prophesying about the coming Messiah, Isaiah spells out very clearly what we must believe about the Healer. We really can’t accept His death on the cross for us (and resurrection) without believing why He came and what He accomplished.

I must now hang onto this truth with all my might with my extended family as we lay my cousin to rest.

What wounds do you need to take to the Healer? Let’s see what He does with them in 2016. His time spent sacrificing for you and for me is wasted in each of our lives if we don’t open ourselves to His Healing.

I’m bringing mine to Him because I know He can and does heal.

I believe Him. Will you join me?

*This blog was first a featured column at Your Tewksbury Today

**It has also been shared at any link highlighted here: Mom 2 Mom Monday Link-Up, Make a Difference Mondays, Pick Your Pin Tuesday, Worshipful Wednesdays, Women With Intention WednesdaysGrace & Truth, A Little R & R, RaRa Link-Up, Me, Coffee & Jesus, Dance With Jesus, Blessing Counters, Coffee & Conversation, Saturday Soiree, Sunday Thoughts Link-Up, Tell His Story, Find Stability, So Much at Home, Faith-Filled Fridays, Reflect His Love and Glory Link-Up, Bonbon ‘n Coffee Linkup, and Christian Mommy Blogger.

Anecdotal stories about an everyday relationship with God can be found in Not Just on Sundays: Seeking God’s Purpose in Each New Day (includes Book Club Discussion Questions).


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19 responses to “Take It to the Healer

  1. Carolina Cisneros

    February 10, 2016 at 5:31 pm

    Great post and happy to have found you on Women With Intention. Have a beautiful rest of your week.


  2. Rashel

    February 10, 2016 at 7:09 pm

    Visiting through Coffee For Your Heart. This is a great reminder that it isn’t an us kind of deal, it’s an all Him. All we have to do is let Him.


  3. Hannah Scarlett Smith

    February 11, 2016 at 8:08 am

    This is beautiful and so encouraging to those with hurting hearts. I’m really glad for you- to be able to see how He works and trust in His plans even when these tragedies happen. May you be blessed and may your strength be renewed! He is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine. ❤


    • Bonnie Lyn Smith

      February 11, 2016 at 8:58 am

      Oh, yes, yes, yes….He is able to do more immeasurably than all we ask or imagine! Thank you for that important reminder! I need to daily remember that! Blessings!


  4. Tasia @Batavia''s Best Bargains

    February 11, 2016 at 8:52 am

    I’m so sorry to hear about your recent heartaches. I love the honest truth in this. It is so true to seek God in those hard times. To praise him in the midst of heartache to carry on believing in the good. He will heal all those pains and bring about beauty for you to shine onto others lives! He just has even with this post!


    • Bonnie Lyn Smith

      February 11, 2016 at 8:57 am

      Thanks so much, Tasia. I really appreciate that encouragement. It ministers to me so much. Blessings, and thanks for coming by Espressos of Faith!


  5. ginabad

    February 11, 2016 at 12:02 pm

    This is good stuff. Someone I dearly love is a new Christian, but he’s having a hard time handing his issues over. Well, ok, the truth is, don’t we all? All good, but how tough it can be to let Jesus drive, EVEN when we know without a doubt it’s way better with Him in charge.


    • Bonnie Lyn Smith

      February 11, 2016 at 6:51 pm

      Gina, thanks so much for leaving a comment. I agree. It’s very hard. I’m having a hard time convincing a friend of mine that Jesus can be trusted with the deepest pains in her heart. Until we’ve built history with Him, so much of our early relationship with God is based on our crying out and baby steps of faith. Blessings to you and your loved one!


  6. sphilpot

    February 11, 2016 at 1:04 pm

    “What healing do you have for me here?” Such a powerful question. I love the inviting of the healer in.


    • Bonnie Lyn Smith

      February 11, 2016 at 6:54 pm

      Stacey, I am slowly learning that really every situation we find ourselves in needs the Healer…whether it’s a matter of the heart or a physical healing. I am so quick to forget to invite Him into each scenario, but when I do, it’s so beautiful what He does with brokenness. Thank you so much for reflecting on this with me! Blessings!


  7. Andrea

    February 11, 2016 at 6:38 pm

    Yes. All of this… I’m reminded of the scripture, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18 I’m also reminded that we grieve deeply because we love deeply. There is a gift in that. I pray you are feeling Him near today, Bonnie.


    • Bonnie Lyn Smith

      February 11, 2016 at 6:55 pm

      Thank you so much, Andrea…beautiful reminders! I am feeling Him very near. Blessings to you! I feel very encouraged by your comments!


  8. Andrea

    February 16, 2016 at 3:04 pm

    This post really made me realize that the joy that God has for us has nothing to do with the pain we endure on this earth. When we grieve, he sits with us through it, but his joy never takes a break. It’s always there.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Bonnie Lyn Smith

      February 16, 2016 at 5:39 pm

      Oh, Andrea….I love that! His joy never takes a break. So good! Thank you!


  9. kkedzia

    March 7, 2016 at 9:49 am

    I love this, “No matter how we find the broken pieces of ourselves, we have ready access to the Healer. He wants to bind our wounds. He came to heal bodies and hearts. It is already accomplished. We need to just believe in His tender heart toward us and trust Him with the aching places.” It is so true and so timeless. Thank you for your vulnerability xo

    Liked by 1 person

    • Bonnie Lyn Smith

      June 2, 2016 at 11:45 pm

      Thank you so much for commenting, kkedzia! I just saw this. I’ve been away from my blog quite a bit in the past few months due to my father’s death, but I really appreciate your comment. Blessings!



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