Telling “You’re Not Worthy” Exactly Where It Can Go

16 Mar

Telling You're Not Worthy Where to GoA close friend and mentor of mine taught me this cute little phrase: “Go lick a shut-up-sicle!” Now, I realize that can be offensive, so I try not to say that to people, and if you’re offended by “shut up” in any context, maybe it’s best you stop reading. But I do believe there is a place for this little phrase, and I’ve more or less come to adore it. Even around my Moms’ Prayer table every other week, we’ve come to have more than one giggle about it.


Because we do have the right to say this to a few things in our lives, and one of them is that haunting, sneaky voice: “You’re not worthy.”

Here are some versions we can hear in our own minds:

  • You’re not worthy because you can’t offer your children $800/week stimulating, science camps all summer. You’ve already failed to give them the edge. They’ll never have the skills for scholarships now. You’ve caused them to fall behind their peers. Great parent you are!
  • You’re not worthy because you don’t school at home, raise chickens, grow your own vegetables, and make bread from scratch every day.
  • You’re not worthy because you are a bad person for living away from family. It doesn’t matter that a job brought you to where you are. You left the flock, so shame on you! You deserve not having any help.
  • You’re not worthy because you can’t keep a clean house or ever get anywhere on time. Why would anyone want to come over to your cluttered, small house anyway?
  • You’re not worthy because you don’t bring in a regular paycheck and/or you stay at home.
  • You’re not worthy because your social anxiety makes you awkward. Your direct approach makes indirect folks cringe, and you should never make other people uncomfortable because of who you are.

Much of the time these thoughts aren’t actually spoken to us. Some of them fall under that slippery slope of dangers of comparing ourselves to others.

Regardless of cause, they are dark voices inside our own heads. They may be informed by pieces of what has been said to us over time or even our own insecurities, but they are absolutely 100 percent lies the enemy of our soul offers to keep our focus off not only our Creator but also helping other people.

At first, these voices of condemnation wink at us, flirt with us, court us, buy us a nice new dress, and take us for a charming waltz across the floor—far from the things we should be focusing on. Pretty soon we are getting in the car with them and going for a long drive.

Let’s admit it. The condemning voices come into our heads, but we are the ones who willingly go cruising down Main Street with them until they shove us out of the car and leave us standing in the rain, abandoned and wallowing in everything those lies delivered: shame, guilt, low self-esteem, and feelings of worthlessness. After they draw us away from conversations we could be having with Christ, we are




But that’s where the shut-up-sicle comes in. Oh, how I love that shut-up-sicle!

See, the thing is: We don’t have to listen. We can tell “You’re not worthy” to be quiet! We have power and authority to shout it out with the name of Jesus—because that name makes that condemning voice quake, tremble, and run back into the dark corners from which it came.

The Bible says we are worthy because Christ died for us. That more or less shouts out any and all voices that say otherwise.

Romans 5:6-8, ESV, Apostle Paul speaking

For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. For one will scarcely die for a righteous person–though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die–but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us (emphasis mine). 

Romans 8:1-4, ESV Apostle Paul speaking

There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death. For God has done what the law, weakened by the flesh, could not do. By sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh and for sin, he condemned sin in the flesh, in order that the righteous requirement of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not according to the flesh but according to the Spirit (emphasis mine).

I have learned over time to call “You’re not worthy” by name.itisfinished

I say: “‘You’re not worthy,’ Jesus says that I am indeed worthy through His death (and resurrection) on the cross on my behalf. There is ‘no condemnation’ for those who are in Christ Jesus. The ‘righteous requirement of the law’ has been fulfilled for me.”

And then my favorite part:

“Hey, ‘You’re not worthy’! Go lick a shut-up-sicle, because I’m covered by the grace of God through His Son Jesus!”

I don’t bother to fight with that nasty voice “You’re not worthy.” That battle has already been won. 

End of story. It is finished (John 19:30).

*This blog is also featured at Your Tewksbury Today.

**It can also be found at Mom 2 Mom Monday Link-Up #25Grace & Truth Link-Up, and Simply Inspired Wednesdays.

More on grace, relationship with God, and renewing our minds can be found in Not Just on Sundays: Seeking God’s Purpose in Each New Day.


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12 responses to “Telling “You’re Not Worthy” Exactly Where It Can Go

  1. Maria Davis

    March 16, 2015 at 11:24 am

    I love that phrase! We were just talking about this in my lifegroup yesterday. The devil knows he can’t take away our salvation so instead he just renders us ineffective by trying to fill our heads with lies. And we often don’t realize that’s what’s going on until we’ve been sidelined for weeks, months or even years.
    Thanks for sharing!

    Liked by 1 person

    • Bonnie Lyn Smith

      March 16, 2015 at 8:38 pm

      You are so right that the enemy does that to us! And it can sometimes be a while before we dig ourselves out. I am trying to see these red flags sooner than I did before as I mature, but occasionally I really do befriend the lies for a while. Until I find myself further from God. Slow learner sometimes.


  2. Amy

    March 16, 2015 at 11:33 am

    Love, love, love. I have so often allowed myself to put myself down thinking I’m not worthy because of basically all the reasons that you have listed. But at the end of the day, I just remind myself, No, I”m not worthy, but God loves me anyway. Loves me enough to send his son for me. So even, if I’m not worthy, I am very loved!

    Liked by 1 person

    • Bonnie Lyn Smith

      March 16, 2015 at 8:42 pm

      Amy, that is such a good point. I didn’t want to say “but we are worthy,” because our Savior considered us worth dying for, but our worth is through the sacrifice of Christ and not in our own merit. That helps me to realize that nothing I can do can take away the covering of the cross. He sees me as worthy because of the cross, so who am I to argue? Thank you for stopping by Espressos of Faith. 🙂


  3. kcgroves

    March 16, 2015 at 2:03 pm

    This is great. I do tend to get in a rut sometimes and believe the lies, it takes me awhile to rememeber I can tell them to shut up!

    Liked by 1 person

    • Bonnie Lyn Smith

      March 16, 2015 at 8:44 pm

      Isn’t that so empowering, KC? I sometimes forget the amazing power of the name of Jesus. Thank you for reading!


  4. Clare Speer

    March 16, 2015 at 8:26 pm

    Love it – we are “worthy” in the Lord! Great reminder!

    Liked by 1 person

    • Bonnie Lyn Smith

      March 16, 2015 at 8:50 pm

      Thanks for stopping by, Clare! Thank you for the encouragement!


  5. Jennifer @ A Divine Encounter

    March 17, 2015 at 1:42 pm

    Amen! We don’t have to listen to that voice, thanks to the freedom Christ’s shed blood purchased for us. I’m glad you shared this with us at Grace & Truth.

    Liked by 1 person

    • Bonnie Lyn Smith

      March 17, 2015 at 5:55 pm

      Thanks for coming by, Jennifer! I’m really enjoying Grace & Truth! Such variety! And yes, sometimes I need the reminder that listening to that voice is optional. It’s so nice to turn it right off by the power of Christ’s name.


  6. Amy Jung

    March 23, 2015 at 1:18 am

    I’m not offended! I think this is one time where saying shut up and talking back is absolutely appropriate! Thanks for reminding me to listen to the negative talk that can go on in my head!

    Liked by 1 person

    • Bonnie Lyn Smith

      March 23, 2015 at 1:39 pm

      Thanks, Amy, for stopping by “Espressos of Faith!” I’m so glad you agree! Negative talk is such an everyday downer, it’s time we told it where to go! 🙂 Blessings!



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